Hopefully you can read the quote from this book I've been reading on and off...Dr Phil's 'How to raise a Phenomenal Family'. This page made me teary as I felt such peace for making the decision to not smack our children. I had felt it from the beginning but would hear so many differing views from people who I thought had wisdom. Family members, other parents at church and even strangers. Why was I taking their opinion when everything was telling me otherwise.
Asher is high needs when it comes to behaviour. It would be so easy to give him a smack and see an immediate result. Not smacking and expecting the same result is a heck of a lot harder - requiring more restraint, patience, love, understanding - all qualities i would not be able to gain on my own without going through this process. However the main reason for not hitting our children is what Dr Phil explains - we are the ones who protect them from everything so why would we want to hurt them and shame them and expect a positive outcome. I want to have a Phenomenal relationship with my children. I want them always to know I have their back - that they will always have someone when the rest of the world is failing them.
I know other people have a different view, I know other children behave better then mine, I can't judge or assume I know better. I'm learning and doing what my body and heart is confirming is right.
This whole experience is for our own good and I'm glad I'm going through it.
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